It happens! It’s well within your rights to back out of a trip, of course, but your instincts are correct: It would indeed be a terrible look to jet off with Lily separately in the immediate aftermath.īut I think there are ways in which you could configure the existing planned trip to make it bearable (namely, shorter or smaller in scale). And again, I really love Kelly, I just don’t want to try to navigate the world together even for a short time!Īh, yes, I’ve seen the brightest minds of my generation overcommit to a group Portugal trip. I’m looking at my vacation days now and wondering, is there any way Lily and I and our partners can head off to Portugal or somewhere else together? Or should we skip it this year and try to revisit it after some time has passed since the initial idea? I haven’t asked Lily what she thinks yet, and I’ve really avoided talking with her about Kelly in general because I don’t want to be negative and gossipy toward our friend together.

He’s nice, but not someone I would want to vacation with, and my partner didn’t click with him either.

Additionally, my and Lily’s partners know each other really well, but Kelly has only been with her partner for less than a year and Lily hasn’t met him. The three of us went on a short weekend trip a few years ago and it straight up wasn’t fun. There are also a ton of small reasons relating to her very particular preferences and general lack of planning skills. My biggest reason is that Kelly has a disordered relationship with eating and exercise, which is both upsetting and tedious to be around up close and personal.

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